If you had your time to come again

I chose not to get married this time so maybe I should get married next time?

Or maybe I chose not to get married this time because I did get married last time?

For this life. I don't see the point in getting married unless you want to have children. And I was never keen on the ides of being a father. Looks like a lot of hard work. Expensive too. Okay it was neither for my old man, I don't think having 3 children altered his lifestyle in the slightest, but you couldn't get away with that nowadays.

I don't have any children of my own, didn't want them. Next time round I will not be getting married, too expensive and too restricting.

I’d always get married but no way would I ever have kids, I utterly detest the little fuckers and I can’t understand why anyone likes them.

As babies they are fat, bald, noisy, smelly, need carrying everywhere, disrupt your sleep and eject noxious substances from every orifice.

As rug rats they talk incessantly, move chaotically and generally disrupt the peace. Still haven’t got full control of those orifices either.

As Pre-teens, they want incessantly and cost you loads with no return. Still noisy and chaotic too.

As teens they end up hating their parents, making more noise with music and testing all boundaries.

Then they grow up, cost you a fortune to put through university and then thank you by putting you in a home.

F#ck them.

Holding my new-born son in my arms was the biggest highlight of my life never to be remotely equalled and I'm so glad I had the chance of marriage and fatherhood, despite the pain as well as joy. I did my fair share of nappy changing, even when he sat in it and it squidged up to his neck (oh yes indeedy, they 'all' do at least once in their infancy).

I had to compromise on the HiFi situation though back then and it's not been easy as it's my life. That's the one regret, but compared to the above regarding our son and his growth and life since those times - he's now twenty, it's insignificant!

Never married never felt the desire, never had the desire, or wanted the responsibility of having kids, let alone the responsibility of dealing with an emotional being for any thing longer than a night. Find most women to be a bit of a handful. Always had a strict policy, "by sun up the bitch bitch must be gone".

I Am quite content with my own company. never had a highly paid job, there was however enough money to supply me with everything I needed, and enough of the things I wanted. The thought of being tied down just did not appeal to me. I wanted to come and go as I please. I am of a cynical nature.

I thought I fell in love once maybe twice in my life, on careful examination, I came to the realisation that I had fallen in love with the idea nothing else.
Any way I was young, stupid, and the hormones were in overdrive.
No future in starting out like that, as many have found out to their detriment. Some make the same mistake over and over. Some find the right lid, of that their is no doubt. Some feel the desire to procreate. That is fortunate for the survival of the species. I just wanted no part of it all.

Seems this is a family trait, my brother did marry very late in life, he is a good husband. His wife is considerably older than him, and has advanced Parkinson's, he cares for her extremely well. They have been together in total for 46 years. They only finally married so as to keep his residence in Germany. My sister is a fruit cake and that is being overly kind, more like a rabid dog in fact. She married twice, the first time at my mothers instance, because she got knocked up. Something good did come out if that, I have a delightful, beautiful Niece, who is 36 now with absolutely no desire to marry and have children. The second husband the gold digger sister married only because she could screw the poor bugger out of his money, she did a fine job of work on that account, believe he is living in a caravan now. Guess he felt it was preferable to run, or he would have ended up killing the bitch. The very same thought has often crossed my mind.

The two girl cousins, on my mothers side of the family have never married. The three girl cousins on my fathers side all married, they have a tribe of children between them. They all turned out great. They were brought up as strict Catholics, they are still devout Catholics so that can only be expected. Lucky they are not Mormons, they pop kids like Rabbits.

The family names are dead, on my fathers and my mothers side, Boo Hoo.

Well, it just goes to show we are all different. I enjoy my “HiFi” but it is not my priority in my life.

I guess I have been lucky in that my daughter is easy to look after. I have educated her from an early age not to touch the HiFi, and she does not.
I never shout at her. I have no need to. She responds to my requests/instructions.

I wasn’t that interested in having children, but my wife was so I compromised. However since having our boy, I totally ‘get it’. It is the hardest thing I’ve ever done but by far the most rewarding!